If you don't forgive those who have hurt you, you give them power of you. When you forgive you are in control of yourself and emotions.

If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them--you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.

The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it.